Sunday, June 27, 2010

Broken Arms and Birthdays!

On Wednesday Spencer turned 11! He is such a sweet and considerate boy and I love him so much. I love how thoughtful he is. When he knows that I don't feel well or I am tired he will tell me to sit down and he'll help me with whatever cleaning I need to do. He loves to help me prepare dinner and always gives me good suggestions for meals.

We decided to invite Grandma and Grandpa Hepworth over for cake and ice cream in the afternoon since Spencer had scouts that night. They came over after lunch and we sang to Spencer and he blew out his candles.


Brig was standing next to me on a bar stool as I began to dish up the cake to pass out. Grandma was helping with the ice cream. I just got the birthday boy his piece of cake and was going to get one for Brig. As I turned to hand it to him the bar stool slid and he fell off. I tried to catch him but I wasn't quick enough. When I picked him up he was holding his arm and I looked at it. I could see that it was broken. He screamed and cried. None of my other children have ever even broken a bone so I wasn't sure what I should do. Fortunately Grandma has experience in this area. She told me the doctors office to go to and said she would call ahead while I drove there. I was nervous about driving Brig. He was so sad and I wished that I could hold him but I knew I couldn't hold him and drive. Just before I pulled out Tyler came and went with me. I was so grateful. I held my screaming boy while Tyler drove us to the doctor. I figured they would cast him up and we could head home. Well the doctor came and talked to us and told us it was a really bad fracture to his humerus bone where it connects to his elbow. He said it was going to need surgery. He said I'd like to do the surgery tonight. He told me to head over to the hospital and they would try to get him back there around 6. Well I had to make cupcakes for Spencer to take to scouts to celebrate his birthday so I called Grandma and she whipped up the cupcakes for me. I went and checked in at the surgery center and then I ran home to make frosting for the cupcakes and tell the kids what was going on. Brig and I went back to the surgery center and waited and waited and then the doctor came and said the surgery before ours was taking a long time and they didn't know when it would be finished. He asked if I'd rather wait until morning. I said morning would be better so they scheduled the surgery for the next day at 7 AM. That worked so I could finally feed Brig some food :) As we drove home I was talking to my sister Leslie and she reminded me that Brig was allergic to penicillin. I had completely forgotten and I know if they had taken him back into surgery he would have had a severe allergic reaction to the medication. I consider it a blessing that the surgery didn't take place until the next morning. The surgery took longer then they thought it would and they had to put 3 pins in Brig's arm. I love my poor little Brig I hope his arm heals quickly! I don't know how we are going to go to the pool now.


Friday, June 18, 2010


As I've struggled with the sad feeling I've felt with Dave passing on, I have realized a few things. Last night as I thought of my sweet nieces and nephew I felt so sad for them. Fathers day is in a couple of days and I know they will be missing their dad. I think when someone looses their life at a younger age we tend to say things like "I guess the Lord must have needed them for something on the other side." There have been a few times that I have thought about my brother dying of his addiction. As I worried about him I have struggled to find comfort in the thought of someone dying as a result of their addiction. I felt like you couldn't really say that the Lord needed them because the addiction was the cause. As I mentioned this to my sister Leslie today on the phone she helped me to see something more spiritual. Maybe the Lord realized how much Dave was suffering and decided it was enough. I know that the Lord is merciful to us. In John 11:35 it Says "Jesus Wept" This was when he raises Lazarus from the dead. I think the profoundness of this scripture shows that he really understood how Mary and Martha felt. He had compassion for them. It shows me that the Lord has felt what we felt, after all he suffered for all of our sins. In Alma 42:15 it Says "And now, the plan of mercy could not be brought about except an atonement should be made; therefore God himself atoneth for the sins of the world, to bring about the plan of mercy, to appease the demands of justice, that God might be a perfect, just God, and a merciful God also. I really know that God is merciful. I don't understand why things happen the way that they do but I know that God knows what is in our hearts. I also know that Dave is at peace. I am so grateful for the mercy of God in my life.


In Memory Of David Eugene Bashford

Thursday, June 17, 2010

Goodbye to Dave and Welcome Summer

Yesterday as I was running on my treadmill I heard the phone ring. I don't usually get off to answer it but I was feeling kind of tired. I headed upstairs and Spencer handed me the phone. It was my mom, she sounded like she had a cold or something was wrong. I asked her if she had a cold and she said "no, I just called to let you know that Dave was found dead this morning." Dave was my sister Carrie's first husband, and the father of Heidi, Erin, Josh, and Emily(my nieces, and nephew). I feel so sad for them. I really think that Dave realized his life wasn't a happy one but didn't know how to change it and so he drank it away. I remember a lot of funny things about Dave when he and Carrie were first married. I didn't know Dave as an alcoholic so all I have are the memories of how he was. I pray for his family to find comfort and I'm glad that they have Aldo in their lives.

The last month of school just seemed to fly by! Spencer was given an award from the district for most improved handwriting. Along with the award is a $50 bond. Both Spencer and Austin made their AR goals and received the Presidential fitness award. The kids all did so well in school. I am so proud of them!

We are still waiting for Every day the kids ask to go to the pool or sleep on the trampoline. We have only been to the pool once. It is open, but I don't want to get into the pool when it is cold out. Last time we went I ended up having to jump in and help Brigham stand up and I still had my pants on.