Coming to terms.....

I love having 5 children. They are the joy of my life. I love every single one of them and wouldn't change who they are, but one struggle I've had is that I desperately wish that my little Hailey could have a sister. I grew up in a girl family where I had one brother and six sisters. I am close to my sisters and I talk to a couple of them every day. They are my best friends and we support one another through our ups and downs. More than anything I wish Hailey could have a sister because I love having sisters so much....don't get me wrong I love my boys and wouldn't give them up or trade them for a girl any day, I just want Hailey to have a sister to feel close to like I have.

Maybe I'm a little selfish and I should just be grateful for the wonderful and healthy kids that I have....and believe me I do feel thankful for that. Maybe a sister was just too much to ask for.

I have spent many fast Sundays fasting for myself to come to terms with the fact that Hailey won't have a sister. I don't really know the reason that she only has brothers but I know that there is a purpose for the way that things are. It still makes me sad, but I guess Hailey will never know what she is missing because she hasn't ever had it.

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Heather said…
I have thought the same thing.. She will always get to be the Princess!!:)
August 2, 2009 at 8:51 PM
Anonymous said…
Hugs girl! I can see where you are coming from. I have 3 sisters, and I love it. My mom has always been jealous of my relationship with my sisters though. Sometimes I wonder if Drew will ever get a brother...I have a feeling we have another girl coming.
August 2, 2009 at 9:28 PM
The Hoggan's said…
Maybe she wasn't meant to have a sister because she has such a wonderful mom to lean on and be close with. I do love my sisters though!
August 2, 2009 at 9:45 PM
All for J's said…
I worry about that too with my children. I would like my son to have a brother and my daughter to have a sister. I know that it won't happen it's just one of those things I enjoyed and wanted for my chidren. You are a great Mommy and I hope you can find some peace with this worry sweetie. I agree with the Hoggan's in that you and Hailey can be like sisters :)
August 2, 2009 at 11:04 PM
Chad and Barbi's family said…
I know how you feel. I thought that way before Sydnee. I am glad that Tori has a sister, but Tori and Sydnee aren't that close. Brahnson and Sydnee seem to have a bond that I have never seen in siblings. Hailey has some great brothers and she'll know how to hold her own in every situation that comes her way!
August 3, 2009 at 7:32 AM
kari said…
When I found out this next one is a boy I felt the same way a bit. I was over-joyed that Harris was to have a brother but a bit sad that Anna wouldn't have a sister. Yet, sometimes I relish in the fact that her and I have to stick together as the girls. Plus isn't it better she has all those brothers to stick up for her?
August 3, 2009 at 10:13 AM
Debbie said…
Aw. That's kinda sad. I have one sister and one brother. My sister and I weren't very close as kids. That relationship has gotten better since we don't live together! My Morgan doesn't have a brother, but Aidan is such a tom boy he has a good buddy in her. You just never know. But you can enjoy some "girl-time" with just the two of you :)
August 3, 2009 at 11:41 AM
Juliann said…
I have gone through very similar struggles...as I am the oldest of 5 girls (no brothers). I can't imagine my life without my sisters, and I'm sad that it looks like Anna will not have sisters. BUT, I do feel like God knows what's best for her and though she may not have a biological sister, I believe she will have the influence of many great girls and women in her life that will be as sisters to her. That is my hope.
August 3, 2009 at 4:51 PM
Cluttered Brain said…
she will probably have some great sisters in law then like me. i have 2 brothers, and no sisters until i got married. She'll adapt. Plus there is always roommates at college. Just like sisters. She'll do fine. on the opposite hand, i always wanted my girls to have a brother to protect them. i really screwed up on that one--having all girls. ahh well. you can't win them all can you? :)
September 3, 2009 at 2:05 PM
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